I read psychology doctoral course time bathroom storage, writing assignments, one is the study of " listen ". I want to start, this is not easy, we have two ears, if not a congenitally deaf can hear, to become an outlaw. In the middle of the night, sleep, eyes closed, the no switch, a moonset Wu Ti, he suddenly woke up, do not want to hear but not to do it. Furthermore, I do physicians for many years, every day countless times to listen to the patient dumping full of grievances, tympanic membrane are too often. So, listen to me should not.
Check the data, careful thought, I know a lot of difference. " Listen " in this subject, many people fail. If the conversation without our knowledge, we will be listened courteously but without sincerity. If the person talking tedious, we will not hesitate to interrupt the. If the person talking talk frivolously, we will clearly show tired look. If the conversation people lack high perspicacity, we'll sarcasm, embarrassed him ... ... All in all, I have countless times the ground played, has come to think of it, too.
The people of the earth, and mastered the art of listening to people, but wind hair rare.
Do not believe, we do an experiment.
You look for in a good friend, say to him or her, now I tell you from my heart, but you do not listen carefully. Can you look around, you can giggle and flirt, you can also listen to music to comb the hair dry everything you suddenly think of a thing, you can also evade the subject under discussion ... ... In short, what can you do, just don't listen to me.
When your friends decided to cooperate with you, the game can begin. You need to pick a tear hepatic fissure biliary pain thing, more emotions hotel school, must not be sloppy perfunctory.
Well, you say ... ...
I guess you can say how long, up to 3 minutes, can beat a retreat. In any case you can't go on. In the face of a to you. Your sorrow completely indifferent guy, you have no interest in an open mind. Not only you but also your silence, frustration and anger. Do you think the friend unworthy of your trust, unfriendly. You decide later and he gradually sparse gradually far, you even doubt know this person is it right? A mistake ... ...
You will say, don't listen to the speech of others, there will be serious consequences? I can tell you with responsibility, and so it is. There are a lot of us lost opportunities, there are a number of messages of a strange combination of circumstances, there are a lot of friends just miss the person or opportunity, even their lovers, the insulation causes, are we never learn to listen.
Well, the unpleasant games we'll do it here. Here, we make a pleasant activities.
Or you and your friend. This time, your friends are telling you the past imprint is engraved on my heart. Please you leaned forward, please look warm. You hold your breath with his eyes, you with his emotional ups and downs of surfing. If he is happy, you also responded with a smile. If he is sad, you will accompany the downcast eyes. If he tears, you softly handed towels. If he was a long time in silence, you and he came through ... ...
It's Fairy simple. When he had finished, the game is over. You can ask him, in that you listen to him, he felt nothing?
I guess, your friends will tell you, you gave him respect, gave him the love. Give his loneliness to comfort, to his hopeless to dawn. To his joy doubled, to his sorrow halved. You are the one of his best friends, he will remember and you spend unforgettable moments.
This is the magic of listening.
Listen to " tilt ' ' word, I thought is expressed as body diagonally forward, use body language to express love and attention. Look up the dictionary, actually otherwise. Or just make such understanding is not comprehensive enough. Listen, is " exhausting to listen to ". Here the " tilt " word, similar to turn out in full strength Logistics Warehouse, similar to make a thorough search, similar to the empress dowager, similar to downpour ... ... Rack one's brains in no reservations.
May have exaggerated and overcorrect, but the importance of listening I thought must be referred to a height to know, this is one of the important sign of mental health. People living in the world, speaking and listening are two priority. Said, mainly express their thoughts and feelings and consciousness, each said people want others to hear their own voice. Listen, is receiving others describe the inner thoughts, in order to achieve the purpose of communication. Listening and speaking is like the two wings of ROC, must be coordinated, can go up in.
The rapid development of modern life, the person's life, not curled up in a small village or town, but gallop across the sea. Contact with the people, is no longer Jishiyibai, probably tens of thousands of. In a relatively brief period of time, to let others understand you, let you understand others, and in two a collision between the mind, it becomes the soul of art.